Why Women Over 50 Should Masturbate

Masturbation should be part of a healthy self-care routine for women over 50.

Unfortunately, we live a “patriarchal society” which means there is still a strong message that female sexuality only exists to pleasure others.

And even more daunting… there is a lack of talk about women’s bodies and their sexuality as they age.

Then there is the role culture and religion play, which depict masturbation as a sinful act. This leaves some women thinking that masturbation is wrong or shameful.

Have you ever felt shame in your life about self pleasure?

Where did you make to believe you needed to keep masturbation a deep dark secret?

You are not alone… This was the mindset we grew up in, making sex and self-pleasure something men could high-five about in public and women we labeled slut or prudes.

SO what are you going to do about?

When it comes to sexual self-pleasure, women are missing out due to a disconnection between women’s bodies and sexuality.

The good news is that age plays zero roles in self-pleasure and once you get past old narratives about masturbation, you can open your mind to new sexual experiences.

Masturbation is a form of self-care.

For many women a self –care routine consists of eating healthy, exercising, getting good sleep, and lowering stress in our lives. Anything that positively affects our mental well-being should be a part of our daily routine.

Here are 5 reasons you should make self-pleasure part of your self-care routine:

1. It’s good for your mental well-being.

When you have an orgasm your brain releases feel-good chemicals, such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins which reduce stress and lift your mood.

2. Helps promote a healthy appetite.

And no… this does not mean you will get fat or gain weight! What it means is your metabolism will stabilize and regulate itself more consistently when you have an elevated heart rate, increased pleasure hormones and regular release of Phenethylamine, a natural amphetamine, which regulates your appetite and helps lift depression.  It’s important to listen to your body and fuel it with nutritious food AND an active sex life.

3. Better bladder control

We’ve all laughed so hard we’ve peed are pants a bit, right?  Or maybe you’ve sneezed in your car and felt the “OOPS!” …  Kind of a laughable, embarrassing, and complicated mix of emotion when this happens isn’t it?

Hate to break to it you, but as we age, the pelvic floor muscles start to weaken. But guess what? Orgasming contracts those muscles, helping to strengthen them. Have you heard of Kegels? Sure, you can sit at your desk and do Kegel exercises, OR you can choose to have more fun and strengthen your pelvic floor with sexual exploration or self-pleasure.

4. Turns on your libido

Thought your sex drive was dead?  Some days it probably feels that way doesn’t it, HOWEVER, did you know, that sexual activity increases blood flow to the genitals to improve vaginal elasticity?  And this doesn’t mean you need to constantly engage in partnered sex.  Masturbation keeps you in touch with your sexuality, which can lead to a heightened desire for other sexual activities as well.

5. Level UP Your Sexual confidence

But let’s try this a different way… How often do you run your own hands over your breasts, legs, and private parts complimenting them, appreciating them, and loving them as your hand moves along?  If the answer to this question is “never”, then it’s time to practice new sexual rituals that will build trust and confidence in your own body.

Masturbation helps women get to know their bodies.  In exploring, you give yourself the opportunity to find clarity around what works and what doesn’t work for you.

It’s a way for you to get into a loving and compassionate relationship with yourself. And then build healthy, sexual boundaries around these principles. This practice will give you an extra pep in your step (and in the bedroom).

Touching yourself and exploring your body is the best way to learn what sort of stimulation gets you off. Then, when you share your self-knowledge with your partner, they too can bring you to orgasm. Whether you are using your fingers or your favorite toy, learning about what your body loves will help you grow on your journey of self-exploration.

Do yourself a favor…make some me time and make masturbation a key part of your self-care routine today!

It’s a perfectly natural way to promote a healthy lifestyle!